How to Heal from Broken Promises with EFT Tapping (VIDEO)

Today, we're exploring the emotional weight of broken promises and the feelings of disappointment and hurt that often come with them. If you've ever been let down by someone you trusted, you know how painful that can be—especially if those experiences happened when we were younger. These emotions can linger, impacting our ability to trust, connect, and even see ourselves with compassion.

In this tapping session, I’ll guide you through releasing those feelings. It’s important to remember that this is a safe space for you to acknowledge and process your emotions. Please take full responsibility for your own health and well-being as we tap through this together. Let’s begin the journey of letting go and inviting in peace.

Transcript:

Hi there, Suzannah here from the Tapping Association. And today we're going to be tapping on the impact of broken promises, specifically those from when we were younger. Now, I'm sure that you've experienced moments where you felt let down by someone that you trusted or someone that you relied on. And that can leave you feeling really hurt, really disappointed, upset, or even angry.

I know that for me, growing up with my dad, who was addicted to alcohol, there were so many times that I had broken promises and felt let down. And honestly, it felt absolutely soul-crushing. So this is really relatable to me. I do understand what that feels like. The emotional impact of those moments really stays with us and weighs us down. It can keep us stuck in feelings of resentment, sadness, or disbelief. It also affects our relationships, making it really hard to forge trusting connections. Maybe you’ve got low expectations of yourself and others as a way to protect yourself in case something goes wrong. It feels safer to have those low expectations than to be let down again. It’s like a self-protection mechanism.

So today we're going to start to tap through those feelings and hopefully begin to release the hold they have over us. All right?

Before we begin, just a reminder that by tapping along with me, you agree to take full responsibility for your own health and well-being. Okay?

What we're going to do, first of all, is take a moment to tune in. We want to find that specific event where you felt let down. You might want to close your eyes here, just tuning in, thinking back, to a memory of being let down—a broken promise. This could be recent, or it could go as far back as your childhood. We're looking for a specific time you felt let down by someone in your life. So just finding that moment, that event. I want you to tune into that.

We’re going to work out the intensity of that emotional charge. So 10 is the most emotional charge you can feel—really distressed when you think about it. And zero is completely neutral, no feelings either way about the event. Just think about where the feelings sit on that scale of 1 to 10. Make a mental note because we’ll check in with this number again at the end of the tapping session.

All right? Take a breath. Let’s start tapping.

Repeating after me, either in your mind or out loud:

• Side of the hand:
  "Even though I was deeply let down by [insert person or event here] and it still hurts, I'm learning to accept my emotions and where I am today."

• Side of the hand:
  "Even though I have this pain and disappointment from being let down, and it feels really heavy on my heart, I'm doing the best I can, and that's okay."

• Side of the hand:
  "Even though I feel hurt and upset by this specific event, and it still impacts me, I deeply and completely love, honor, and accept myself."

• Eyebrow point:
  "I was really let down by them, and it hurt so much."

• Side of the eye:
  "I trusted them, and they didn’t come through for me."

• Under the eye:
  "This pain is still here, and I feel it in my body."

(Here, think about where in your body this comes up for you. We hold so many emotions in our body, so just tune into that. If there’s nothing, that’s okay too. Don’t worry.)

• Under the nose:
  "I can’t believe they let me down like that. How could they do that?"

• Chin point:
  "It made me feel small and unimportant."

• Collarbone point:
  "I don’t know how to move on from this disappointment."

• Under the arm:
  "It’s like this pain has been stuck inside me for so long."

• Top of the head:
  "I’m still carrying this weight, and it’s weighing me down."

• Eyebrow point:
  "I feel angry and sad when I think about this."

(Feel free to say whatever else you’re feeling here.)

• Side of the eye:
  "It’s not fair that they let me down like this."

• Under the eye:
  "I trusted them, and they hurt me."

(It’s okay if you’re feeling emotional—just let it come up, and tap through it.)

• Under the nose:
  "This disappointment is so real, and it’s really hard to let this go."

• Chin point:
  "It feels like a wound that hasn’t healed."

• Collarbone point:
  "And I feel this in my body, but most of all, I feel it in my heart."

• Under the arm:
  "I can still feel that sense of disappointment."

• Top of the head:
  "And I don’t know how to release this. I don’t know if I can."

• Eyebrow point:
  "But what if it’s possible that I could start to heal from this? I guess it could be possible."

• Side of the eye:
  "Maybe I could begin to understand why this happened. Maybe not."

• Under the eye:
  "In the past, I’ve overcome so much—so many curveballs, so many challenges."

• Under the nose:
  "And I acknowledge how strong I’ve been."

• Chin point:
  "Maybe I can gather strength from those past experiences now."

• Collarbone point:
  "I’ve made it through challenges before. I can get through this."

• Under the arm:
  "I could consider letting go of the emotions but keeping the lessons, keeping the wisdom, but only if that feels right."

• Top of the head:
  "Maybe I can start to release this pain, even if it’s just a little bit. Just a little bit of relief can make a big difference."

• Eyebrow point:
  "I give myself permission to release this now."

• Side of the eye:
  "It’s safe for me to let go of the disappointment."

• Under the eye:
  "I’m willing to release the pain of being let down. I’m willing."

• Under the nose:
  "I wonder if I can free myself from this."

• Chin point:
  "It’s safe for me to move forward, even if I was let down. I don’t have to stay there."

• Collarbone point:
  "I’m willing to let go of this burden now."

(Just letting go here. Maybe going back to that area in your body where you felt this earlier, imagining that sensation changing. Maybe it’s getting lighter. Maybe it’s dissipating or dissolving.)

• Under the arm:
  "I can release this pain. I don’t have to carry it anymore."

• Top of the head:
  "I wonder if I can start to feel lighter and more at peace."

• Eyebrow point:
  "I give myself permission to feel safe in this moment, even if I was let down."

• Side of the eye:
  "It’s safe for me to release this from my heart."

• Under the eye:
  "I’m willing to let go of the sadness, the anger, the hurt."

• Under the nose:
  "I don’t need to hold onto this any longer."

• Chin point:
  "I choose to release it. I choose to feel lighter."

• Collarbone point:
  "I invite lightness into my heart, and it’s safe to let this go."

• Under the arm:
  "I give myself permission to let go of the weight I’ve been carrying all this time."

• Top of the head:
  "I’m ready to release this and welcome more peace into my life."

We’ll do one last round of positive affirmations:

• Eyebrow point:
  "I am strong and resilient."

• Side of the eye:
  "I choose to embrace peace and calm."

• Under the eye:
  "I deserve to feel good about myself."

• Under the nose:
  "I am worthy of love and understanding."

• Chin point:
  "I trust myself to release what no longer serves me."

• Collarbone point:
  "I’m choosing to let go of my burden now."

• Under the arm:
  "I deserve peace in my life."

• Top of the head:
  "I deeply and completely love, honor, and accept myself."

Take a deep breath in and out. And now, tune back into that memory. How does it feel? Has the intensity on that scale of 1 to 10 shifted? Notice if there’s been any change, even just a little. It’s all progress.

Thank you for joining me in this tapping session today. Healing from the pain of broken promises is a process, and by showing up here, you've taken a significant step in that journey. Be kind to yourself and remember that progress takes time. If you're still feeling the emotional weight, it's okay—keep tapping and know that you're doing the best you can.

Take a deep breath, honor the work you've done, and trust that each time you tap, you are moving closer to peace and emotional freedom. I appreciate you tapping with me, and I’m here to support you as you continue this healing process. Take care.

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